This article first appeared in BSE Forum Views
Is real wealth only money? Is success only
increasing sales, revenues and profits? Or is it much more?
Yogesh Chabria, a world renowned business
coach, motivational speaker and authority on success shares his valuable
insights with BSE Forum Views in this exclusive feature.
A very powerful
CEO and his wife had come to me for guidance and advice. They desired complete
personal confidentiality, which is something I always take very seriously for
all my clients.
Everything in
their life seemed perfect on the outside. They had all the money in the world,
they didn’t have any debts and EMIs to worry about. Their children were well
placed and doing well. They had a beautiful house, a wonderful lifestyle and
the most luxurious cars.
They knew some
of the most famous and influential people on the planet – from political
leaders to sports and movie stars. They got invited to the most glamorous
parties in the city. To anyone looking on the outside, their life was perfect – and yet they
didn’t feel happy. Something was amiss.
They gradually opened up to
reveal their inner lives. After years of being together, they felt they had
drifted apart and no longer felt that spark in their relationship. Constant
fights and arguments over the smallest of things had become commonplace. They
barely spent any quality time together or had any conversation.
The husband’s phone had become
his constant companion instead – business calls, Whatsapp, and the Internet had
taken over every moment at home. While his career had rocketed up, his personal
life had spiraled down. He was filled with anger, stress and anxiety, which in
turn gave way to daily pills for hypertension and cholesterol.
The wife, on her part, confessed
how she felt empty inside. She loved her husband, but felt that over the years,
he stopped responding to her love. No matter how much she asked him to not
spend so much time on the phone or the Internet and take more care of his
health, he just would not listen. She had all the material wealth, but no peace
of mind. Because of the atmosphere at home, her health, too, was affected – she
felt depressed and hopeless.
I meet so many couples who are
facing similar challenges. On the surface, we see the sheen of their success –
they are high performing corporates and professionals, well-established
doctors, lawyers, engineers and well-acclaimed entertainers. But the inner
turmoil, the feelings of being lost and hollow inside, the internal conflicts
often go unnoticed to others around them. They barely ever laugh together or
even speak to their spouse and feel all hope is lost.
But there is always hope and
there is always a solution. Life can be changed in an instant – if we really want to. It has always been my
conviction and belief and something I have experienced not only in my own life,
but also seen to ring true for millions of people all over the world, who have
succeeded in changing their lives in amazing ways.
The first step to bring in
change is to understand what really is true wealth and success. Is it simply
achieving career growth and earning a lot of money? Or having a huge house,
expensive cars, chic clothes and a lavish lifestyle with frequent holidays and
dining out?
If it was only that, then this
CEO and his wife, and so many others I know would not be unhappy or depressed.
While material wealth and financial prosperity are very important, what matters
even more is a state of fulfillment. A state where we realize that real success
and wealth means a state where every aspect of our life is in harmony and
balanced.
As human beings, we need to
feel fulfilled not just financially and materially, but also mentally,
personally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Somehow, these are values
and topics that very few people are ever taught about. As children, society
puts pressure on us to get good grades and then good jobs – we are rarely
taught about the value of happiness and peace of mind.
People spend 15-20 years of
their life achieving material wealth and career growth, and once they attain
it, they suddenly feel lost and empty.
Luckily, it’s never too late
to change. It is time to take control and break the mold. Now is a new moment and a new beginning and anyone can change!
I am happy to share that once
this CEO and his wife understood this, they had immense change in their life.
They feel happier, a sense of gratitude and peace of mind. They feel fulfilled.
This inner transformation also helped them strengthen their bond and discover a
new connection with each other. They have a new hope and desire to make the
most of this wonderful life, together.
While they thank me for this
change, I always tell them that it is not me, but they, themselves, who are
responsible for it. I might have been a catalyst or a small spark, but
everything else is a result of their own thoughts and actions. The human mind is like an unlimited supply of
fuel – sometimes all it needs is a small spark.
I want you to
ask yourself - What Is Real Wealth and Success for Me? I
would really love to hear your answers!

Yogesh Chabria is a world-renowned leader in the field of human potential. He is a #1 bestselling author, ranked as one of India's best motivational speaker, entrepreneur and founder of The Happionaire Way. His seminars, books, articles and video programs have influenced people from over 100 countries. It is his vision to have a world filled with happionaires. To be a part of this vision, visit: www.happionaire.com
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4 comments:
I can connect so well with this article Yogesh ji, because so man of my friends are facing similar challenges. So true and so humble of you to not take credit for the wonderful change you are bringing in society with your ideas.
You made my Sunday by sharing this article Yogesh, I shared it with my husband and we both accepted so much......really nice of you to talk about things that really matter..
Really a nice true article strikes a hidden chord somewhere
Thanks so much! Always happy to add value!
Yogesh Chabria
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